Becoming a Digital Nomad Was Lonely and I Made Financial Mistakes

On my first day in Kuala Lumpur, I posted the view from my apartment on my Instagram story and replied to messages from “jealous” friends.

Then, I put my phone down and realized I didn’t know a single person in the city.

I got bit by the travel bug during a working holiday in Australia in 2017, where I started dabbling in online writing.

When I got back to my home in the UK, I kept freelancing. With no office or set hours, I started to consider working abroad.

I thought being a digital nomad would offer unlimited freedom and the ability to make friends in other countries. But my expectations turned out to be very different from reality. Writing from a café all day without speaking to anyone was incredibly lonely, and keeping track of my expenses on the move was mentally taxing.

After spending nine months across 10 countries, I flew back to the UK in June 2019. I no longer travel as frequently, preferring to go on holidays where someone I know is either traveling with me or waiting on the other side. I find it much more fulfilling.

I thought becoming a digital nomad would help me save money

It can be hard to sustain a steady income as a freelancer, so I figured spending time in countries with a lower cost of living during the early stages of my writing career could be financially helpful.

Most digital nomads I followed online recommended saving three to six months’ worth of expenses prior to the trip for emergencies. However, in my excitement to see the world, I waited until I could cover my flight and the first few weeks’ accommodation, assuming I’d figure out the rest later.

I made a few embassy appointments and got my documentation in order for the countries I wanted to visit. I spent time in Australia to catch up with old friends before booking a ticket to Malaysia in January 2019.

Managing finances while travelling was stressful

A few days after landing in Malaysia, I was already counting pennies. I wanted to enjoy being in a new country, but didn’t want to empty my bank account within the first few weeks.

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Growing up, my mum and I didn’t talk much about finances. When I started earning, I wasn’t well-versed in financial management.

By the time I reached Thailand, roughly three weeks later, I was telling myself I just needed one good month to get back on track financially.

But an unexpected expense, like a doctor’s appointment or an overweight baggage fee, always chipped away at my current account.

Some nights, I struggled to sleep, constantly wondering how I could feel so stressed with a lifestyle that enabled me to travel the world.

Living abroad was isolating

I tried to meet people at language learning events or at hostels, but as an introvert, it was difficult to talk to strangers. After a few weeks, I decided to keep to myself.

Meanwhile, I’d scroll through photos that friends back home were posting online: birthdays, nights out, people sitting around a barbecue. Their lives looked stable, whereas mine looked like guesswork.

I chose the transience of the digital nomad lifestyle, so I didn’t think I could complain. But every time I moved, I had to start all over.

New bus routes, new plug sockets, and, always, the loneliness crept in.

I lost motivation, struggled to focus, and stopped feeling like myself.

I now travel less frequently, but more intentionally

I was in Istanbul when I realized I hadn’t seen my mum in over six months.

I sent her a message asking if we could meet somewhere in Europe. A few days later, she booked a flight to Budapest, and we stayed together in a small Airbnb. We cooked dinner and watched a movie like we used to back home.

Even though we only spent a few days together, it helped me realize I didn’t need to travel to feel fulfilled. Connection was more important.

I stayed on the move for a bit longer, but since the COVID-19 pandemic in 2020, I haven’t gone back to long-term travel. I now live with family in Dorset.

I still travel occasionally and see it as a way to spend time with loved ones.

A few months ago, I went to Berlin with my dad. More recently, I visited my girlfriend in Boston, spending a week exploring bookstores and counting squirrels in the park.

Traveling is now less about a solo escape and more about being around people who make life worth living.

I still freelance in the UK, and I’ve had to learn from the financial mistakes I made abroad. I try to plan, track what I spend, and check if I can actually afford something before saying yes.

It sounds simple, but I’ve learned that simple money habits are often the most effective.

When people ask me what I do, I tell them I write, and I used to be a digital nomad.

“It sounds like a dream!” they often reply.

Parts of the digital nomad lifestyle were. I could technically work from anywhere, and I visited more countries in a few months than I ever thought I would in a lifetime. But I also went months without hearing my name or spending time with people who really knew me.

I wish someone had told me that before I left. Not just that travel can get lonely, but that one day I’d wake up, realize I hadn’t had a real conversation in weeks, and think that was normal.

Do you have a story to share about being a digital nomad? Contact the editor, Charissa Cheong, at ccheong@businessinsider.com